The Iceberg Illusion

The other day my friend Jaime placed a photo on my Facebook wall and after a grueling 11 mile jog I saw it and burst into tears. A good, sappy, blessed, full tilt Ugly Cry.

The picture was titled The Iceberg Illusion and it reads success is an iceberg. The top of the iceberg is what everyone sees: SUCCESS! Below the water was the largest, unseen part of the iceberg and it showed what most people don’t see: failure, determination, discipline, and work.

It hit me right in the feels because when people discover I’ve lost a lot of weight the next question is always: HOW? When I say I had weight loss surgery sometimes the mood just changes. 

“The easy way out.”

“Cheater, you took the quick fix!”

“Anyone could lose weight like that.”

“I was hoping you worked for it”


Weight loss surgery is a tool that facilitates weight loss and it in no way guarantees any loss or long term success. It doesn’t delete my love of ice cream from my memory banks, and it certainly didn’t run 11 miles. 

When people say these things I will kindly say that there’s quite a bit of discipline and effort in surgery and it’s for a lifetime. Some may want to hear more others will balk and move on.What this picture did for me was let me know that some people are in tune with the frequency of what this process is like.

Food was my drug of choice and my coping mechanism!  There are days when it takes every ounce of strength I have to not eat a piece of cake. Summer is here and my friends Ben & Jerry are around every corner! Apple pie no longer takes the edge off a bad day. 

This process is a winding road of discovery. Discovering who I am without food. Discovering how to handle emotions without food. Discovering what my body can do without food. Discovering that you can never truly be without food so you discover that it’s really this:

Discovering who I am without focusing on food. 

Discovering how to handle emotions without using food.

Discovering what my body can do without abusing food. 

This discovery takes place below the water level of the iceberg and I’m blessed that I have friends that can see that and remind me of it when I need it most! Thank you Jaime for blessing me!

Author: Regina Bartlett

Regina Bartlett is a blogger and speaker from the gorgeous Rhode Island coastline where she spends her days with her amazing husband Jeff and their combined family of six adult children and two very tiny adorable chihuahuas. She’s active in her church, sings on the praise team, and is amazed every single day at how God has totally changed her life. Formerly 425 lbs she’s battled her weight for 30 years until RNY Gastric Bypass surgery in December 2014 where she lost 250 lbs and gained a new lease on life. She wants to share with anyone who thinks that they MIGHT be interested in surgery and knowing the real truth behind the surgery since there are a lot of misconceptions and fears. Deciding that she needed a challenge to continue with her weight maintenance she decided to embark on running the NYC Marathon in 2016 on Fred’s Team for Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Like so many people, her life has been touched by people affected by cancer. Discovering that her friend of over 25 years was diagnosed with breast cancer she had even more inspiration to run. On November 6, 2016, she completed the grueling 26.2 miles through all five boroughs of New York City and realized her 20 year dream of completing the largest marathon in the world. This blog will travel with Regina as she laces up her shoes and continues to challenge herself while sharing stories of her life and the people who have been an influence on her over the years. You’ll find stories, recipes, crafts, photographs of the wonder that is Little Rhody and countless photos of her tiny pups Sid Vicious and Taxi Fitzgerald. TL;DR: Wife, mother, writer, avid crafter, lover of Jesus and tiny dogs everywhere with a story to tell. FOR BOOKING INFORMATION please use the contact form below or email Thank you!

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